@Rubywax What helps you when depression hits? #AskRuby xx
Realizing that depression has really hit and not pretending its not there and will just go away if I stay busy enough or distract myself enough. Then indulge myself till it passes.
@Rubywax #AskRuby Are you ever ashamed of your depression and if so, how do you challenge that?
Yes, when I think the suffering that’s going on in the world, I’m ashamed because I’m not under siege nor is anyone firing guns at me. I keep saying it’s 1 in 4 and depression doesn’t care who it gets no matter how privileged or safe.
@Rubywax How can I avoid passing on my anxiety and depression to my future children? PS Loved your show, been 3 times so far #AskRuby
Thanks for being nice about my show. Depression isn’t something you pass like a virus. If someone has five kids, not all of them get it or get passed the mental illness parcel. It’s Russian roulette when it comes to who inherits what and whether it’s nature or nuture. If you stay awake to their needs and aware of your syndrome then the offspring stands more of a chance for a better life. Love makes up for quite a lot of potential emotional problems.
@Rubywax #AskRuby what are you thoughts on the use of mobile phones around young children and early childhood brain development
I don’t know, I’m not an expert in the field but I know if I didn’t have a mobile I wouldn’t have survived.
How does a relationship survive depression? #AskRuby
Only if you have a ‘loving you no matter what’ partner.If they don’t get it and think you might be just too lazy to pull yourself together, it won’t survive. It’s a tragedy but it’s true some people can’t take watching indefinable mental suffering and feeling helpless, they abandon the ship.
What degree of stigma do you think there is around mental health in the UK/Internationally? What should the government be doing? #AskRuby
Changing laws so people with mental illness can’t be stigmatised. It should be illegal.
@Rubywax Hi. What are your opinions on Mind and Rethink? Thoughts about upcoming Psychedelic therapy? Best book recommendations? #AskRuby
We should kiss the helm of Mind and Rethink, without those charities there would be mayhem in the streets; they give advice and tell you how to get help….what’s not to like?
I always thought psychedelics were good for your health. If you’re going to be out of your mind you might as well go for the real thing.
@Rubywax What do you do on those days where you don't feel like you can get out of bed? #AskRuby
I don’t get out of bed.
@Rubywax how does touring impact on your mental health? Do you find it more difficult to manage your depression on the road? #askruby
I love being on a train; my happiest moments are when I don’t have to give face time to anyone and be able to focus in on my writing as scenery whizzes by and once in awhile I see a cow – bliss.
@Rubywax #AskRuby can I come round to your's for egg and chips please? Don't mind oven readies
No, I don’t do chips; never have. An egg I can make - I’m not completely useless.
#askruby Love your book. What's your top tip to stop the brain running wild thinking about scenarios that will never happen?
For me doing mindfulness is the control tower but everyone has to find their own means of curbing rumination, which is the devil and leads no where, only down.
@Rubywax #askruby Did (or do) you ever worry that achieving emotional control via mindfulness might take the edge off being funny? after all, seeing the world differently is part of what makes a person funny. Emotional calm = less funny??!
Mindfulness just cuts out the fat so I’m not thinking about my dry cleaning or buying another towel when I’m trying to write a funny line. It gives you edge; doesn’t take it off.
@Rubywax #askruby what do you think is the biggest misconception about the practice of #mindfulness and ur suggestion for overcoming it?
That you lose your edge and that your mind is supposed to empty and go blank. (It goes blank when you die that’s the only time)
@Rubywax What advice would u give fellow creatives who struggle when low & don't know how to keep going / see a future with it? #AskRuby
I can’t give advice, when you’re that low it only pisses you off when people say, “It will pass” but the truth is it will pass.
@Rubywax I'd love some tips on how to apply mindfulness while busy looking after a toddler! #AskRuby
Read my next book out in January, “Mindfulness Guide For the Frazzled” it gives all that advice and more on just about everything.